Dear Kiki

I recently reconnected with a work acquaintance and went with him for a business lunch that by hour two had subtly and unexpectedly morphed into a date. For me this individual is arguably the perfect man in terms of interests, experience and lifestyle — with the enormous caveats that he’s my father’s age and looks like him. In thoughts, feelings, sentiments, beliefs, habits and, thankfully, movement, they are unrelated, opposites even. But in height, build, hair and face, the resemblance, unfortunately, is striking. Age gap aside, which I think I can think myself through, I really and truly don’t have any trace of an Electra complex to explore. I am not into my dad. Do I send this remarkable person on his way, or do I grow the hell up and date an adult for once?

Yours truly,
Sugar Daddy Issues

So I’ve been dating this girl for a few months now and everything seems to be going pretty great, except for one thing. She voted for Donald Trump. I am an outspoken feminist and Democrat; I’ve attended rallies in protest of his executive orders — I really don’t think I can identify with that man other than that we are both straight, white males. I know her family is quite conservative, but from the things we do together and talk about, I assumed that she was the black sheep and voted for Hillary like me or just didn’t voted at all. She has expressed she feels a great amount of remorse from her decision, but it still boggled my mind that our views, at least in terms of voting, could be so far from each other. I’ve definitely tried to hear the other team’s side since the election, but how do I continue being with someone that voted for Trump, a man who is so far off base with reality or anything right in the world?

My ex-boyfriend was really gross (as in “kinky”-choking-without-any-consent gross), and I have to encounter his current boyfriend every time I walk around campus. Not only that, but I’m in a play with said boyfriend and I’m expecting to see the ex/strangler at the cast party.

Dear Kiki

I have the complete and total hots for Speaker of the House Paul Ryan. I desperately want to get him alone in a hotel room even though I hate him with all my being for his terrible legislation. What should I do with this information? I spent a whole day fantasizing about him last week.

Signed,
Speaker of the Hots

I recently started dating a guy who is, by most measures, the perfect match. He’s intelligent, handsome, considerate, has a great job and is great in bed. The only catch is, he is really, really nerdy. Not in the good way. He’s pretty socially awkward, he doesn’t have many friends and I feel a little uncomfortable introducing him to my friends. We’re compatible in every other way, but I’m just not ready to bring this guy around. Am I being shallow?

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Questions about love and sex in the Iowa City/Cedar Rapids area can be sent to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com (queries can also be sent anonymously using this form). Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. I’m a divorced mom of two. I recently finished my medical training, and am […]