Questions about love and sex in the city of Iowa City can be sent to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, How do I talk my boyfriend into trying pegging? Our relationship so far has been “heteronormative,” if you will. Signed, Persuasive […]
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Dear Kiki, I want to have a super sex-positive Halloween, but October is cold in Iowa City and skimpier costumes make me worry about frost-bitten labia. Can you help me think of a hot costume that’ll keep me warm? Signed, Chilly Dear Kittycat, I have some thoughts, fragments arising from the depths. First, consider the […]
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Dear Kiki: Nervous Clam

Dear Kiki, I’m a bisexual woman, and I’m in my first serious relationship with another lady. We’re absolutely in love, but lately she’s been frustrated with our sex life. I don’t really like being eaten out, even though I love going down on her. She says this makes her feel like she’s just not good […]