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Dear Kiki: WTF is commitment, anyway?

Dear Kiki

Questions about love and sex in the city of Iowa City can be sent to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com (queries can also be sent anonymously using this form). Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, I don’t know what to do with the idea of “commitment.” What […]

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Dear Kiki: Partner gaining weight?

Dear Kiki

Questions about love and sex in the city of Iowa City can be sent to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com (queries can also be sent anonymously using this form). Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, My long-term partner has gained 15-20 pounds over the last couple months […]

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Dear Kiki: Period privacy

Dear Kiki

Questions about love and sex in the city of Iowa City can be sent to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com (queries can also be sent anonymously using this form). Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, I’m a cis woman in a monogamous relationship with a cis man. […]

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Dear Kiki: Conquering role-play stage fright

Dear Kiki

Dear Kiki, I like including role-play scenarios in my sex life. My problem is that even if it’s something that’s been previously discussed with my partner, when I make the first move––say the first line, put on an outfit––I am overcome with the same embarrassment of performance that, say, watching open mics or bad theater […]

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Dear Kiki: When great sexual chemistry meets poor communication

Dear Kiki

Questions about love and sex in the city of Iowa City can be sent to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, My long-term partner and I recently opened up our relationship, though we’re taking it slow. Currently, I’m seeing this person who’s […]

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Dear Kiki: How do I talk to my boyfriend about pegging?

Dear Kiki

Questions about love and sex in the city of Iowa City can be sent to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, How do I talk my boyfriend into trying pegging? Our relationship so far has been “heteronormative,” if you will. Signed, Persuasive […]

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Dear Kiki: Your guide to rocking a sex-positive Halloween costume without freezing off your jibbly bits

Dear Kiki, I want to have a super sex-positive Halloween, but October is cold in Iowa City and skimpier costumes make me worry about frost-bitten labia. Can you help me think of a hot costume that’ll keep me warm? Signed, Chilly Dear Kittycat, I have some thoughts, fragments arising from the depths. First, consider the […]

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Savage Love: Gymnastics

Savage Love

This is going to sound like bragging, but my appearance is intrinsic to my kink. I’m a gay male gymnast. Most of the guys on my college team are annoyed by the kind of objectification we routinely come in for. (We actually don’t want to be auctioned off at yet another sorority fundraiser, thanks.) But […]

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Savage Love: The affairs

Savage Love!

I’m a 35-year-old divorced man. I’ve been on plenty of dates since my marriage ended, but I invariably get asked this question on or before date #2: “Why did you get divorced?” This is where everything goes to shit. I’m honest: “We got divorced because I cheated on my wife. A lot.” This usually catches my date off guard because I’m “not the kind of guy I’d have thought could do that.” But I can hardly get past date #2 after this, because this information is “too much to handle.” Sometimes my dates will admit to having cheated too. Not even other cheaters are interested in seeing me again. […]

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