Dear Kiki, Polyamory has taken the lesbian and queer community by storm. Every person I talk to wants me to read The Ethical Slut or Polysecure and be on board with their primary partner, but after experimenting with it I think I’m just monogamous. Am I less enlightened? Less queer? How do I say I’m […]
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Dear Kiki: How do you seduce men over 60 years old?
Submit your question to Kiki, LV’s sex and relationship advice columnist. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, How do you seduce men over 60 years old? Recliner Robber Dear RR, You’ve got me on the ropes, here! So much potential for “any damn way […]
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Dear Kiki: When Meat Loaf said he won’t do ‘that,’ what was he referring to?
Submit your question to Kiki, LV’s sex and relationship advice columnist. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Flashback sequence! Recently, Kiki answered audience questions at Little Village’s inaugural Roast of Des Moines. The rapid-fire Q&A was a blast, but there was one question that deserved further […]
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Dear Kiki: How do I tell my loved ones I’m just not interested in sex and romance?
Submit your question to Kiki, LV’s sex and relationship advice columnist. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, Help! I don’t know how to tell my family (and friends) I’m AroAce (asexual-aromantic). I’ve been attempting to drop hints and politely refusing their advice, but to […]
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Dear Kiki: I don’t find humans attractive. Is there a Cybertronian play-partner out there for me?
Submit your question to Kiki, LV’s sex and relationship advice columnist. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, I’ve been struggling when it comes to BDSM and other forms of play and relationships, as I have a Mech Cybertronian-based sexuality where I don’t find humans […]
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Dear Kiki: I know it’s superficial, but I wish she had better style
Submit your question to Kiki, LV’s sex and relationship advice columnist. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, I’m attracted to a woman, but I’m not sure she has very good style and that does affect the way I feel about her. I want to […]
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How to use a pencil to unlock more pleasure
I had a surprisingly sensual and pleasurable experience with a pencil once. I’ve worked with somatic sex educators for a number of years as a way to reclaim a more embodied and empowered relationship to pleasure. Reading Audre Lorde’s work in college helped me understand that the erotic isn’t just the stuff people do to […]
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Dear Kiki: I discovered a new sexual interest, but there’s a logistical issue
Submit your question to Kiki, LV’s sex and relationship advice columnist. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, I’ve recently discovered I have an interest in cumplay, but here’s the problem: I’m a cis guy in a committed monogamous relationship with a cis woman, and […]
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Dear Kiki: How do I get better at dirty talk without embarrassing myself?
Submit your question to Kiki, LV’s sex and relationship advice columnist. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, I want to get better at dirty talking with lovers but I’m embarrassed to try. Do you have any advice on getting more comfortable with saying things […]
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Dear Kiki: A rapid-fire Roast of Iowa City round-up!
Last month, LV was proud to present the annual Roast of Iowa City, once again included as part of the Iowa City Book Festival. (Magazines are literature, comedy is literature: It all makes sense, just trust us.) The community showed up in force and the comedians pulled no punches as they skewered our fair city. […]
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Dear Kiki: I’m a non-kinky, monogamous queer person. Is my voice less valuable?
Dear Kiki, I discovered my sexuality in college, and later came to terms with my gender identity. I feel pretty comfortable in both, but I’ll admit that I’m a pretty “boring” queer person. I’m not really that kinky, I’ve only had a few relationships and hookups in the past, and I’m now in a monogamous, […]
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Dear Kiki: My online dating profile is a mess
Dear Kiki,There are numerous walls I meet when trying to date online. Writing a decent bio is my #1 problem. Also equally tough is explaining the uncomfortable years of not understanding our American social etiquette. What seems like anxiety to a possible flame is confusion I possess for what’s going on.What would be the best […]
