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Stress and sex and sleepy hedgehogs

The anxiety that comes from living in the midst of a global pandemic is not exactly an aphrodisiac. For many of us, sex is the last thing on our minds. Others might find it an effective stress management tool, but struggle to feel safe with their partner(s) at a time when even Tinder has warned […]

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Polyamory works wonders for one Cedar Rapids couple

When Cinna Lewis’s husband gets home from a date, she’s the first one to ask how it went. It bolsters the friendship side of their marriage, she says, a marriage that has flourished for 10 years, this May. Cinna had no intention of ever getting married until, at 32, she reconnected with an old Cedar Rapids Washington High classmate, Beau Lewis. […]

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Dear Kiki: I can’t stop fantasizing about having a hot, no-strings-attached affair

Dear Kiki, I’ve noticed lately that normal monthly ovulation-related horniness manifests as a really strong desire to screw around on my partner. It drives me to distraction and I enjoy every second! I feel like I’d risk it all in the span of two days just to screw around for a good time. The hunt! The escape! The danger! The hot, no-strings-attached sex! I […]

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Dear Kiki: My cousin thinks I ‘stole’ her son’s name

When I found out my second child would be a boy, I decided to honor my grandfather by using his name. A few days later I received a text message from my cousin … She was extremely upset that I had given my son my grandfather’s name without speaking to her first. She felt as though it was her family’s name. It was her father’s name and her son’s name. […]

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Dear Kiki: I have a boyfriend, but fell in love with another man while grieving my mother. Now I don’t know what to do.

Questions about love and sex in the Iowa City-Cedar Rapids area can be submitted to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com, or anonymously using this form. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, I was hoping you might shed some light on a situation I’ve found myself in. Over […]

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Dear Kiki: What is the right amount of sex in a marriage?

Dear Kiki, I have a very personal question. I love my husband more than anything else in the world, but over the past few years we have been having very little sex (perhaps once a month). We still “get along” amazingly well and he’s still my best friend, but the fact that we don’t have sex very often is always in the back of my mind (and his, too). […]

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From the ‘naughtiness factor’ to a search for power, erotic fantasies follow a formula

Think back to the first time you felt sexy feelings. I’m pretty sure my first “tingly” thoughts involved watching David Bowie in Labyrinth, with his very impressive bulge. I also distinctly remember sneaking a peek at softcore porn on staticy channels like HBO or Cinemax late at night. (Think of the TV screen in Poltergeist, but instead of a swirly ghost […]

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