Submit your question to Kiki, LV’s sex and relationship advice columnist. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online.
Dear Kiki,
How do you seduce men over 60 years old?
Recliner Robber
Dear RR,
You’ve got me on the ropes, here! So much potential for “any damn way you please!”-type humor. (And there you have it, folks: I’m clearly not above that.) But come on, RR. Over 60? That includes both Boomers and Silent Generation, with the eldest of Gen X poised to join them next year. That is a lot of variation to lump into a single assumption.
You’ve uncovered one area where your reliably shameless Kiki is (glances side to side and stage whispers) a bit of a prude: The term “seduce” isn’t exactly brimming with trust and honesty, RR. It suggests a rather inappropriate lack of agency for the other party. Seduction techniques don’t have to be duplicitous, but there’s an undercurrent of implied power differential that makes ol’ Kiki distinctly uncomfortable.
All that said, assuming the best intentions and the utmost sincerity on your part, the answer is still painfully simple, utterly dull and frankly universal beyond boundaries of age, sex or gender.
Confidence.
Always and forever, the number-one way to convince someone else that you are fuckable is to know, in your heart of hearts, that you are hot shit—and behave accordingly. Don’t bluster, don’t bloviate, don’t “act confident.” Just have faith in your own inherent value when you strike up a conversation.
And don’t lead with, “The Beatles are overrated.”
xoxo, Kiki
This article was originally published in Little Village’s June 2025 issue.
