Questions about love and sex in the city of Iowa City can be sent to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com (queries can also be sent anonymously using this form). Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, My long-term partner has gained 15-20 pounds over the last couple months […]
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Dear Kiki: Period privacy
Questions about love and sex in the city of Iowa City can be sent to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com (queries can also be sent anonymously using this form). Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, I’m a cis woman in a monogamous relationship with a cis man. […]
Dear Kiki: Conquering role-play stage fright
Dear Kiki, I like including role-play scenarios in my sex life. My problem is that even if it’s something that’s been previously discussed with my partner, when I make the first move––say the first line, put on an outfit––I am overcome with the same embarrassment of performance that, say, watching open mics or bad theater […]
Dear Kiki: When great sexual chemistry meets poor communication
Questions about love and sex in the city of Iowa City can be sent to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, My long-term partner and I recently opened up our relationship, though we’re taking it slow. Currently, I’m seeing this person who’s […]
Dear Kiki: How do I talk to my boyfriend about pegging?
Questions about love and sex in the city of Iowa City can be sent to dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com. Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. Dear Kiki, How do I talk my boyfriend into trying pegging? Our relationship so far has been “heteronormative,” if you will. Signed, Persuasive […]
Dear Kiki: Broaching gender as a trans-identified instructor
I’m a trans-identified graduate instructor working with college students for the first time. My students are used to calling their teacher by an honorific, and while I’ve insisted they shouldn’t, it’s clear that they’re uncertain about my gender…
Dear Kiki: Your guide to rocking a sex-positive Halloween costume without freezing off your jibbly bits
Dear Kiki, I want to have a super sex-positive Halloween, but October is cold in Iowa City and skimpier costumes make me worry about frost-bitten labia. Can you help me think of a hot costume that’ll keep me warm? Signed, Chilly Dear Kittycat, I have some thoughts, fragments arising from the depths. First, consider the […]
Dear Kiki: Genital piercings, yes or no?
It depends! People get genital piercings for a lot of reasons: increasing erotic pleasure, identity expression, less employment discrimination (depending on the profession)…
Dear Kiki: Nervous Clam
Dear Kiki, I’m a bisexual woman, and I’m in my first serious relationship with another lady. We’re absolutely in love, but lately she’s been frustrated with our sex life. I don’t really like being eaten out, even though I love going down on her. She says this makes her feel like she’s just not good […]

