My partner doesn’t want to get married (like at all, ever, in general), but I like the idea of it. It’s not a dealbreaker for me, but it does make […]
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Dear Kiki: Will noticing our nocturnal activities scar the baby?
My partner and I have a 5-month-old who sleeps in a bassinet in the same room as us. We are wondering: When does inadvertently witnessing spontaneous late-night activity potentially scar […]
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Dear Kiki: When should I tell them I’m asexual?
Dear Kiki, As an asexual person, is there a certain time and place to bring up my sexuality when dating that won’t deter people but will let them know I […]
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Dear Kiki: My partner and I are demoting each other
My partner is my best friend. We are ethically nonmonogamous and are going to start scaling back our relationship to make ways for different primary partners. Any advice about how […]
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Dear Kiki: I’m still in my sexual prime. He isn’t.
Dear Kiki, I’m an older lady, 40s and have been with a guy (also 40s) for a while. I have always been very sexual, I wouldn’t say hypersexual, but ya […]
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Dear Kiki: How would you approach a couple about swinging?
Dear Kiki, How would you approach a new couple about swinging? Dear Seeking Swingers, The first and most important answer to your question is: together! Don’t succumb to the temptation […]
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Dear Kiki: I need to get back out there…
Dear Kiki, My married friend is getting separated and he’s already ready to get back out there. I haven’t been out there since before he got married. This makes me […]
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Dear Kiki: I’m new in town. Where can I meet a sexy guy?
Dear Kiki, I’m new in town… how can I meet a sexy guy over 50 to hang out with?! Iowan00b Dear Iowan00b, Welcome! I hope you’re settling in well to […]
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Dear Kiki: Should I warn my ex’s current partner that she’s cheating?
Dear Kiki, A few weeks ago I found out through Instagram reels of all things and confirmed through a friend that my now ex-girlfriend cheated on her current partner with […]
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Dear Kiki: Is a coffee date low effort?
Dear Kiki, I had a friend repost a story of someone saying that getting a coffee as a first date is low effort. That it is lazy for a person […]
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Dear Kiki: I don’t jive with casual intimacy — but I don’t want to be a prude (or alone)
Dear Kiki, Where do I begin? I do not jive with casual intimacy… and I feel like a prude for it. As a young woman I thought if I could […]
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Dear Kiki: I’m a boring monogamist. Does that make me less queer?
Dear Kiki, Polyamory has taken the lesbian and queer community by storm. Every person I talk to wants me to read The Ethical Slut or Polysecure and be on board […]
