I’m a trans-identified graduate instructor working with college students for the first time. My students are used to calling their teacher by an honorific, and while I’ve insisted they shouldn’t, it’s clear that they’re uncertain about my gender…
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Dear Kiki: Your guide to rocking a sex-positive Halloween costume without freezing off your jibbly bits
Dear Kiki, I want to have a super sex-positive Halloween, but October is cold in Iowa City and skimpier costumes make me worry about frost-bitten labia. Can you help me think of a hot costume that’ll keep me warm? Signed, Chilly Dear Kittycat, I have some thoughts, fragments arising from the depths. First, consider the […]
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Dear Kiki: The Trouble with Kids
Dear Kiki, I think my kids (we have three, all boys under 12) can hear us having sex. Is this going to scar them forever? My husband says he’s kind of glad they’ve heard a real woman experiencing real pleasure, but I just don’t know. Signed, Too Loud Dear Honeybee, There are two things here: […]
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Dear Kiki: Genital piercings, yes or no?
It depends! People get genital piercings for a lot of reasons: increasing erotic pleasure, identity expression, less employment discrimination (depending on the profession)…
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Dear Kiki: WTF is emotional labor?
Dear Kiki, I know there are all these stereotypes about how women are more emotional than men, and men show their feelings with actions, not words, blah blah blah. But last night my girlfriend (I’m a guy) and I got into a fight and she said she was tired of doing “most of the […]
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Dear Kiki: Nervous Clam
Dear Kiki, I’m a bisexual woman, and I’m in my first serious relationship with another lady. We’re absolutely in love, but lately she’s been frustrated with our sex life. I don’t really like being eaten out, even though I love going down on her. She says this makes her feel like she’s just not good […]
